Two Tips for Living Victoriously (After You’ve Blown It): How To Focus After a Failure

Picture for a moment the barrenness and bleakness that happens in a life when compromise occurs. It doesn’t come immediately. At first, there’s some zip, a little excitement; there’s a measure of thrill and pizzazz.

But inevitably the fleshly investment starts to yield its carnal dividends, and when that happens, you suffer as you’ve seldom suffered before.

Consequences of Compromise

Perhaps the words very low paint a picture of bleakness that describes you at this moment. Even in ministry, the burden of struggle takes its toll. You have ignored God’s warnings and pushed your strong convictions aside as you trafficked in unlived truth.

Now you are at the end of your rope. You’re discouraged. You have failed miserably. You’re thinking, What a terrible way to live!

All of us have spent time in that miserable camp called, “Reaping What Was Sown.” En route, there’s enough pleasure to make it seem like fun, but when it’s all said and done, it’s downright awful.

There is no discouragement like the discouragement that comes from self-generated wrongdoing. Enduring the consequences of one’s own irresponsibility creates feelings of grief and discouragement that defy description.

Refocusing after Failure

That’s enough about the problem. What we really need are specific suggestions that get us back on track.

First, openly acknowledge what caused your condition. Openly admit to yourself and to God that you have failed to stand alone as a true child of God.

You see, you weren’t built to live that way. You have allowed someone else to call your cadence. You’re marching out of step with your Instructor, and the Lord speaks directly: “You have not obeyed Me.”

Second, focus directly on the Lord, not on the odds against you. Everything depends on where your focus is. You must discipline yourself to focus directly on the Lord, not on those odds!

Get this straight and never forget it: you will not stand alone when outnumbered or stand tall when tested or stand firm when discouraged if your focus remains on the odds.

Your eyes must be trained on the Lord.

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Pastor Chuck Swindoll

Pastor Charles R. Swindoll has devoted his life to the accurate, practical teaching and application of God’s Word. He is the founding pastor of Stonebriar Community Church in Frisco, Texas, but Chuck’s listening audience extends far beyond a local church body. As a leading program in Christian broadcasting since 1979, Insight for Living airs around the world. Chuck’s leadership as president and now chancellor emeritus at Dallas Theological Seminary has helped prepare and equip a new generation of men and women for ministry.

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