Series Details
Grudges grind friendships to a halt. Bitterness turns marriages into marathons of misery. Misunderstandings build walls of resentment between neighbors who erect high fences. Even churches aren’t immune to the painful results of hurtful words and unmet expectations.
Are you stuck in the disappointment of a broken relationship? Desperate to break free from the chains of bitterness and anger? A fresh perspective is the place to start, and that’s God’s specialty. His Word provides the hope and help you need.
In Gaining a Fresh Perspective: Seeing Relationships through New Eyes, Chuck Swindoll uses the lens of Scripture to offer you a hope-filled outlook on your relationships. The Lord is ready to restore and renew! Discover how His grace can provide genuine healing and lasting transformation.
Relationships can be the source of our greatest joy or our deepest misery. Grudges, bitterness, and unmet expectations often build walls of resentment that seem impossible to scale. In this series, Gaining a Fresh Perspective: Seeing Relationships through New Eyes, Chuck Swindoll explores how the lens of Scripture can transform our outlook. By applying God’s curative power of forgiveness, we can break free from the chains of anger and move toward a life characterized by restoration and renewal.
Message 1: Looking Back: Clearing Away the Trash We Regret
Sermon Summary Many of us live with a “rearview mirror” filled with regret over the messes we’ve made in our own lives or the wreckage of broken relationships. In this message, Chuck uncovers wisdom from the book of Joel, showing how God’s tender mercies are activated through our grief and repentance. We learn that “clearing the trash” of the past is a necessary step before we can move forward into the healing God has planned for our future.
Key Facts & Themes
- The Necessity of Repentance: Understanding how a heart turned toward God opens the door to mercy.
- Facing the Truth: The courage required to address the failures and regrets that we often try to hide.
Primary Scripture Reference
- The Book of Joel: A study of God’s restoration following a season of national and personal brokenness.
Message 2: Looking Back: Finding Healing Through Forgiveness
Sermon Summary Forgiveness is the most powerful curative agent in the human experience, yet it is often the hardest to apply. This message focuses on the practical and spiritual dimensions of releasing others from the debts they owe us. By looking back at our injuries through the lens of God’s grace, we discover that forgiveness isn’t just for the offender—it is the key that unlocks our own prison of bitterness and allows genuine healing to begin.
Key Facts & Themes
- The Curative Power of Grace: How letting go of grudges restores spiritual and emotional health.
- Lasting Transformation: Why forgiveness is the foundation for renewed friendships and marriages.
Primary Scripture References
- Ephesians 4:31–32: The call to let go of bitterness and forgive as God in Christ forgave us.
- Colossians 3:13: Bearing with one another and maintaining a heart of forgiveness.
Common Questions about Relationship Healing (FAQ)
What is the first step toward fixing a broken relationship? The first step is often gaining a “fresh perspective” by looking at the situation through God’s eyes rather than our own hurt feelings. This involves an honest evaluation of our own part in the conflict and a willingness to prioritize reconciliation over being “right.”
Does forgiving someone mean I have to trust them again immediately? No. Forgiveness and trust are two different things. Forgiveness is a gift of grace given freely to the offender to release your own bitterness. Trust is a quality that must be rebuilt over time through consistent, faithful behavior.
How do I handle a regret that keeps coming back to haunt me? Scripture tells us to “clear away the trash” by confessing it to God and accepting His complete forgiveness. When regrets resurface, remind yourself that God’s mercy is new every morning and that in Christ, your past does not define your future.
What if the other person doesn’t want to reconcile? As believers, we are called to live at peace with everyone so far as it depends on us (Romans 12:18). You can offer forgiveness and extend an olive branch, but you are not responsible for the other person’s response. Your healing is found in your obedience to God, regardless of the outcome.
