Overview:
John 13:34–35; 1 Corinthians 13:1–7
It isn’t knowledge, giftings, or leadership alone that cause people to recognize God’s disciples. Jesus said His disciples are known by their love!
From 1 Corinthians 13, Pastor Chuck Swindoll explains why the call to love is the preeminent commandment. Rather than a feeling, love is ultimately a decision and an act of devotion to Christ.
Learn the features of love in a believer’s life. What Paul taught is true . . . that possessing everything in the world minus love equals zero!
Message Summary:
Message Key Facts:
- The Meaning of "To the End": Commenting on John 13:1, Swindoll explains the Greek phrase eis telos. While it can mean "until the end of life," in this context, it means Jesus loved them "to the maximum" or to the ultimate degree. He loved them through their failures, denials, and thick and thin.
- The Badge of Discipleship: Swindoll notes that while the disciples were known by their physical proximity to Jesus while He was on earth, after His departure, they were to be known by two specific marks: humility (demonstrated by the foot washing) and love for one another (the new commandment) [7–9].
- Three Greek Words for Love:
- Eros: Erotic, sensual love (never found in the New Testament).
- Philia: Friendship and affection (reciprocal).
- Agape: Seeking the highest good of another (unconditional and often non-reciprocal) [11–12].
- Paul’s Mathematical Formula: Swindoll summarizes 1 Corinthians 13:1–3 with a simple formula: "All things plus everything minus love equals zero." Even martyrdom or understanding all of God's secrets counts for nothing without agape.
- Cruel as the Grave: Swindoll admits to his own struggles with jealousy early in his marriage, citing the Song of Solomon to remind listeners that "jealousy is as cruel as the grave." Love, by contrast, is not jealous and applauds the success of others [17–18].
- The L.O.V.E. Acronym: Swindoll offers a practical way to practice love:
- L – Listen: Lean in and pay attention.
- O – Overlook: Ignore minor faults and failures.
- V – Value: Respect the time and opinions of others, even children.
- E – Express: Love must be demonstrated; it is a decision, not just a feeling [20–21].
- The Bruce Waltke Illustration: Swindoll shares a story where he wanted his professor, Dr. Bruce Waltke, to debate a woman teaching false doctrine at a Christian Science church. Waltke refused, telling Swindoll, "That wouldn't have been love, would it?" Waltke’s kindness eventually led the woman to listen to the Gospel, proving that winning the person is more important than winning the argument [22–25].
- "Love Wins a Hearing": Swindoll asserts that you will never win a wayward child or a neighbor back by merely driving home truth. Love opens the door for truth to be heard.
Message References:
- Galatians 5:22–23: The list of the fruit of the Spirit, beginning with love.
- John 13:34–35: The "New Commandment" to love one another as the proof of discipleship.
- 1 Corinthians 13: The primary text defining the necessity and characteristics of agape love [2–3].
- John 13:1: "He loved them to the end" (eis telos—to the maximum).
- Song of Solomon 8:6: Referenced regarding jealousy: "Jealousy is as cruel as the grave".
- John 8: Referenced regarding the woman taken in adultery, illustrating Jesus' non-condemning love.