Question 7: Why is conflict not necessarily an indicator of a bad relationship?

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Dating, romance, marriage, sex . . . are you satisfied with your relationships, or do you long for something better? In an “anything-goes” culture that promotes sexual freedom, we are flooded with photoshopped pictures, pornography, sexting, and casual hook-ups. Addictions are spiraling out of control, the #METOO outcries are louder than ever, and relationships that last are few and far between. Few couples have examined relational and marital success like Jeff and Alyssa Bethke. In this very candid interview, we talk openly about pornography, body image, and current cultural trends. Instead of becoming another tragic statistic, the Bethkes believe relationships as God designed are possible.

Based on their newly released book, Love That Lasts: How We Discovered God’s Better Way for Love, Dating, Marriage, and Sex, the Bethkes offer sound truth and practical habits that are life-giving for all relationships. If you are longing for something better, this interview is a great place to start.

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Love . . . does it make your world go ’round, or have you given up all hope of ever enjoying love as God designed it? Dating, love, marriage, and sex in God’s plan offer incredible joy. However, it takes work to have a healthy, whole relationship; it doesn’t just happen. Those who follow the current cultural beliefs and behaviors will never enjoy all a relationship can be. That is a tough truth to accept, but that is where we must begin when cultivating all our relationships. For those who are deeply addicted . . . there is hope. For those who are terribly lonely . . . there is hope. For those trying to find what is meaningful, lasting, and of eternal value relationally . . . there is hope. How are your relationships today? How does one find a love that truly lasts?

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About Jefferson and Alyssa Bethke

Jefferson and Alyssa have created an online presence that ministers to millions of viewers around the world. Their message? Authentic faith! A voice of reason in a world of compromise, they address subjects like addiction, pornography, marriage, family life, faith, conviction, and truth. Their new book, Love That Lasts: How We Discovered God’s Better Way for Love, Dating, Marriage, and Sex, offers practical tools and wise insights on all things relational. They invite us into their home each week with a Vlog, sharing how they manage to make love and family life incredibly fun and firmly founded on the truths of Scripture. They are passionate about thinking deeply, living fully, and loving wholeheartedly. Jeff and Alyssa reside in Hawaii with their two adorable children.

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  • Love That Lasts: How We Discovered God’s Better Way for Love, Dating, Marriage, and Sex

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